Ep. 191: When “Someday” Is Keeping You Stuck

Have you ever found yourself replaying what happened, thinking about what someone else did, or wishing you had made different choices?

I realized this week that I was doing exactly that.

I’ve spent years talking about taking responsibility for my life, but I had to admit that I was missing an important next step: accountability.

In this episode, I talk about the difference between responsibility and accountability, and how blame—even when our feelings are completely valid—can keep us looking backward instead of building our future.

I share what this realization looked like in my own life as I navigate changes in my income, decisions about my home, upcoming surgery, and a lot of uncertainty about what comes next.

But I also talk about something I’ve learned over and over again: accountability doesn’t mean punishing ourselves or having all the answers. Sometimes it simply means taking one small step.

One phone call.
 One decision.
 One conversation.
 One five-minute action.

I also share my “Maybe I Can” list—a list I keep on my phone of all the difficult things I once thought I would never survive. Looking back at that list reminds me that I’ve done hard things before, and I can do hard things again.

So if you’re feeling stuck, I want you to ask yourself:

“What would accountability look like for me today?”

Maybe that’s where change begins.

Let’s take that next step together. ❤️